A Greek Orthodox Wedding

Τα Στέφανα

ta STEH-fah-nah · The Service of Crowning

In our tradition there are no spoken vows. Instead, through a sequence of ancient blessings, two lives are quietly made one. Here is what you will witness on the seventeenth of April.

Station One · The Promise
Ο Αρραβώνας
o ah-rah-VOH-nas · the betrothal

Before the altar, the priest blesses two rings and exchanges them three times — a first promise, made not in words but in gold.

Station Two · The Light
Οι Λαμπάδες
ee lam-BAH-dhes · the candles

Each is given a lit candle to hold — the light of Christ, and a love that is meant to give its light to others.

Station Three · The Bond
Η Ένωση
ee EH-no-see · the joining of hands

Their right hands are joined and bound beneath the priest's stole — a bond he asks God, not man, to keep unbroken.

Station Four · The Heart of the Rite
Στέφανα
STEH-fah-nah · the crowns

Two crowns, joined by a single ribbon, are lifted over Valissa and William and exchanged three times — making them, in the eyes of the Church, king and queen of their own home.

Station Five · The Shared Cup
Το Ποτήριο
to po-TEE-ree-o · the common cup

From a single cup they share wine three times — for from this day, every joy and every sorrow is one between them.

Station Six · The First Steps
Ο Χορός
o kho-ROS · the dance of Isaiah

Crowned and hand in hand, they circle the altar three times — their first steps as husband and wife, with the Church singing them onward.

Station Seven · The Parting Gift
Τα Κουφέτα
ta koo-FEH-ta · the sugared almonds

At the last, sugared almonds — bitter then sweet, like every life together — always an odd number, indivisible, so that what God has joined cannot be divided.

ΝΑ ΖΗΣΕΤΕ · na ZEE-se-te · long life to you
Valissa & William

Now you know what you are seeing. When the koufeta reach your hands, take an odd number — one each for health, wealth, happiness — and with them, a wish for us.